Well after 2 miscarriages in the past 2yrs I have decided to try for another baby - I was having many worries about the topic but I just cant shake the feeling and the desire to have another child with my lovely hubby while we still do have a chance - I dont want to get to 45 and have regrets that we did not "try" again - when I married my hubby I planned to have two kids with him (he knew this) but I was hoping to have them prior to my 40's - it took me 3yrs to conceive my 3yr old, however since I gave up work to concentrate on my family and not tried to juggle kids, full time time that I was very focused on and running a family home with a "traditional husband" in respect of roles within the family.
the reasons I was worried where
1) my age 43 (44 in October)
2) cycles have taken time to recover from last MC (6mths)
3) the fact that I have a grown up son of 26 and 12yrs from prev relationships and a 3yr old with my husband and I felt I was been "greedy" to want to try for another baby at my age etc
4) he wants our child to be an only child (he has three children very close in age 18, 15, 13) and we are just getting through the middle batch of kids with all the financial worries of supporting a large family - all children 15yrs and under currently live with us. I wants to only be supporting one child when he is getting into his 50's. I always know that i will have returned to work in my 50's so we will not be a single income family.
5) I have always wanted 4 kids since I decided I wanted a family in my 20's (even though I already had a child but until I hit my mid 20's I was never going to have another child - just shows how your views change with time)
6) the fact our parents and my siblings dont want us to try again (we where not trying last two times - but I was hoping and we are still hoping but my other half does not want to plan because we will only be disappointed due to our ages etc) and I have not had a positive response from friends etc who think I should not be trying again because of my age and the problems with getting pregnant at my age
I have decided not to blood gets to identify if I am still fertile etc, because if I am not fertile I just wont get pregnant and there is nothing that anyone can do about it and if I am still fertile all the stats I have read say due to my age there is such a low % which falls every year so after 45 yrs the % is so low its not worth worrying about if I can conceive. I would only be putting pressure on myself if I was to "plan" because 45yrs is only a 14 mths away. I have read about herbal products that can aid the cycle so I will be finding out more about them.
does anyone one have a herbal product they could recommend
