[#1]

Hi all,

Do you think age gap relationships work long term? Does it make a difference whether it's the male or female that's the older one in the relationship?

Would someone's age be off putting for you if you were looking for a new relationship?

[#2]

Hi all,

Do you think age gap relationships work long term? Does it make a difference whether it's the male or female that's the older one in the relationship?

Would someone's age be off putting for you if you were looking for a new relationship?

[#3]

Hi Sunshine

I think they can work out, it depends on the people involved. i think outlook and compatibility are the most important things. When I met my ex-partner I was 34 and I knew when I met him he was a a few years younger than me but when I found out he was 21 I told him it wouldn't work and we should stop seeing each other but he persuaded me to give it a try.

We're not together now (although not anything to do with the age difference) but we had a great eight years together, and two lovely children we both adore and we still get on really well as good friends. So I have to say that it worked for me and although I now wouldn't want to go out with someone in their twenties as our lives would be too different (I'm 44 now) if someone was 10 years older or younger than me I wouldn't really consider it an issue if they felt like the right person.

love

Teanna

xxx

[#4]

I think they can work out, age isn't necessarily the issue. My grandfather was lots older than my grandmother, but they had a very similar outlook, worked in the same industry, but in different departments etc. They had lots of cross over in their lives so although there was the age gap their cultural references (by that I mean popular culture) and life experiences were similar. MIL's husband was 15 or so years older than her but it worked because they wanted the same pace of life and things like that. Even though they didn't share hobbies or have similar views on things it worked because their interests were all about being at home and having everything family oriented so a lot of the other stuff didn't matter.

I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who was more than a few years older or younger than me because of this pop-cultural thing. I am so influenced by the music, tv, technology and all the stuff that was around when I was younger I am grounded in it. To be with someone who didn't appreciate/understand that would make it really difficult. My friend's wife is about 7 years younger than him, 10 younger than me and she just doesn't get so much of the stuff we find funny, refer to and talk about, it makes things difficult at times.