falling 4 sum1 who livs wit their partnr
Just need to chat if anyone out there can help.
I'm usually of a v high moral standard and wont cheat or lie in relationships because i know it can do alot of harm. But I have found myself now falling for someone who has been living with her partner and 2 children for 6 years or more.
It started on line, very occasionally talking, she works shifts and i was busy then so we used to miss each other on line, so we exchanged phone no's and started to text.
Next we agreed to meet up, just to see that we were who we really said we were and that neither of us was lying about ourselves.
we had a great afternoon and i thought that was that.
She started explaining to me that her and her partner had a few rows and often found things difficult at home, I talked to her about work and family stuff my end and we got on well.
Then one day she said she had been thinking about me alot and that she really liked me. I was shocked, very shocked because I had been thinking about her alot too, and worse i had fancied her backside!!! lol.. ((like, why did i say THAT?)) but nvm eh!?
So we agreed to meet up a second time and she took me out for a lovely meal... now we are missing each other alot. We text and talk on line daily, and we are making plans to meet up regularly and do things together, we talk, hold hands and hug, but i kinda want more and know that this is a tough position to let ourselves be in, and i'm very aware of her feelings about her partner and her home life?
What am I doing?
Can anyone associate with this please?
Hiya TS? TL? Tsa? (not sure how to shorten your user name)
I got your email via Hotmail and did sent a reply but it wasnt delivered. Some problem with your sender id?
But thanks for the message anyway, hope your coping with the situation, any news on the make or break?
I got a message and hopefully you will have had a reply too by now, call me what you like.. lol, Any of th above suggestions suits me!
TS, TL, Tsa,,, the list is endless....
Ts is fine if that makes things easier, or just use my email, my proper name is on there.
I have been in your situation - like you i had to leave the ball in my now gf court. We met via online and was friends for months before we met up. Originally as friends but the first time we met there was this chemistry that both of us felt but neither said to the other. She was married at the time and was in my off limits box. But after meeting up a few other times as friends - she approached me and told me how she felt. It was hard at first, but she told her now ex-husband. She left him and i have to say it wasnt easy for any of us. But she is much happier now.
i was in your position, well similar but a lot more crazy, i got involved with a married woman, and it was all good cos i was holding on to the chance that she might leave her husband for me, this went on for 9 months, looking back 9 months of hell, it was the strangest part of my life cos i ended up gettin to know the husband and i felt evil as shit about what i was doing but i was still holding onto the hope that she was going to leave him. anyway at the end of it all i left her, it was really hard and it took me a while to get over it all but looking back on it i am so glad that i got out of it, cos i feel that even if she had left her husband i would hav felt guilty for it cos he really was a nice guy, and also i would not have felt completely secure in the relationship knowing that in the last one she found someone else whilst in it. anyway hope this helps u to decide whats for the best.
I've just come through an identical situation to yours. I was with my partner for 13 years and started messing around with my best friend. After a while, this messing around became serious and we fell for each other. I stayed with my partner but she broke up with hers. She stuck by me as I went through problem after problem in my marriage and also had depression. I knew it was completely wrong for me to be doing this with her because my partner was trying.
Anyway, I broke up with my partner 2 months ago, I dont regret it at all because my best friend and I are now together and we are the happiest we have ever been. Yes, it was a massive risk letting my marriage fizzle out and putting pressure on my new relationship but I guess I got lucky and 99 out of 100 people would have walked away but she stayed.
This is where it depends on the type of person you are involved with. Make a judgement based on what youre prepared to lose. Picture yourself without both people and think outside the box. Make sure youre not just wanting something else because of something that is lacking in your current relationship. Make sure that youre not just wanting something that isnt yours. Once youve done that, you will be able to make a decision.
Once youve made a decision, stick to it. Going back on it will cause more heartbreak. If you find out its the wrong decision then you have to live with it. You can message me if you like because everything about your situation is identical to mine. I'd like to help or find out how its going for you.