Hello everyone! Sorry to 'hijack' this forum, just needed peoples on whether this constitutes what they call a toxic friendship...
I'll try to keep this short and easy to read.
the friendship between me and another is in question (I doubt she realises this, as I am still trying to weigh up the situation)
We became friends when she was having lots of issues in her relationship, it pained me to see her suffer so I befriended her and we became close.
I, Lent her money as she was struggling but over time she has started asking for money on a regular basis. I have started to say no as the amount is reaching over a thousand. She keeps telling me she will pay me back but so far I haven't seen a penny.
She was there for me when I was having issues in my marriage and told me to leave. (I was raped by my husband and he wanted an open marriage to sleep with other women etc etc. lots of crap.)
She put me up when I left and gave me somewhere to stay, I went back to my husband but it want to be and I left again for good. I'm now back with my parents.
She now sees fit to make demands on my time, I have a new well paid job that is high responsibility. She turns up at my desk, calls and emails frequently, disrupting me a fair amount for a chat. She seems unperturbed that my boss sits opposite me. She may just feel put out that I am not as available here.
She also sees fit to tell me how my ex husband is doing, that he looks like he is heading for a nervous breakdown and that I didn't love him enough to make the marriage work, and informs me when she has defended me against judgmental people that have assumed I am the guilty party in my marriage (this I, only have her word on, and her version of this person has said xyz. I have heard nothing from anyone else of this nature.)
I feel like she is trying to manipulate me here, and control things for her own benefit. She often compares how a relationship "should" be to her own, despite whether she loves her hubby our not depends on what day of the week it is. I have lost count of the amount of times she had come to the decision that she is kicking her hubby out because she doesn't trust him etc...
This is all very confusing, comments and opinions welcome!!
