[#1]

hi,

i have been with the most wonderful person for over a year now, but even since the very beginning i have really bad insecurities that she is going to go off me, or find someone better.  just little things like if i dont get an email i was expecting i worry that she has gone off me in someway or realised that she might not love me!! i think it all stems from my last major break up where i took it badly and felt so cheated.  it doesnt help that i am working abroad at the minute and will not be back for another month.  she tells me she never thinks things like this and all i seem to do is make her annoyed because she thinks i worry about so much stuff.

just some ideas on how to stop feeling so insecure when deep down i know i dont need to, everytime after i have been on the phone and had an arguement i feel so angry with myself for making things so bad!!

i know she loves me so why do i end up pushing her away, cos one day i will push her away too far

any ideas appreciated greatly

xx

[#2]

hi,

i have been with the most wonderful person for over a year now, but even since the very beginning i have really bad insecurities that she is going to go off me, or find someone better.  just little things like if i dont get an email i was expecting i worry that she has gone off me in someway or realised that she might not love me!! i think it all stems from my last major break up where i took it badly and felt so cheated.  it doesnt help that i am working abroad at the minute and will not be back for another month.  she tells me she never thinks things like this and all i seem to do is make her annoyed because she thinks i worry about so much stuff.

just some ideas on how to stop feeling so insecure when deep down i know i dont need to, everytime after i have been on the phone and had an arguement i feel so angry with myself for making things so bad!!

i know she loves me so why do i end up pushing her away, cos one day i will push her away too far

any ideas appreciated greatly

xx

[#3]

Breakups are hard, believe me.  I looked all over for advice and finally found a cool book that shed some light on things and turned it all around for me.  It's "From Heartache to Happiness:How to recover from a breakup and find success in relationships".  Great stuff..thought I'd pass it along.  Hope it helps.

[#4]

Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. Try hard not to over-think, over-analyse or second guess how your partner is feeling. Does she know how worried and upset you are about this? I think you need to talk to her.

I really hope this helps, take it easy x x x