[#1]

Hi,

I am a young women, whom worries constantly.

It can be anything, something i have said, done in the past or future, my health, my family, my partner, work etc...

I worry about it.

I have been a worrier since i was a child, worrying about being on time for school, or if what i had said to a certain person... or the world worrying that things in the world would happen here. Bird flu, swine flu.. flooding.

The worrying comes in waves, I will be fine for a while then something will play on my mind.

Help - I don't want to worry all the time!

Thanks any help appreciated!

[#2]

Hi,

I am a young women, whom worries constantly.

It can be anything, something i have said, done in the past or future, my health, my family, my partner, work etc...

I worry about it.

I have been a worrier since i was a child, worrying about being on time for school, or if what i had said to a certain person... or the world worrying that things in the world would happen here. Bird flu, swine flu.. flooding.

The worrying comes in waves, I will be fine for a while then something will play on my mind.

Help - I don't want to worry all the time!

Thanks any help appreciated!

[#3]

Hi Littlemisshotstuffuk,

I have come to the conclusion that we worry as a means of trying to prepare ourselves for the worst and to limit the effect of anything that might happen. What we are actually doing while preparing for a future possibility is spoiling our current moments that we are living.

At a time when things are probably ok we dwell on what could happen to ruin it and as a result we end up spoiling it ourselves.

Whatever comes our way we will have the ability to deal with it when the time comes. Knowing that should reduce the *need* to worry. If we know we will do our best then we have control and the more control we have the less there is to actually worry about.

It is said that worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives us something to do but doesn't get us anywhere.

Another thing that helps me is working at controlling my thoughts because our thoughts affect so many other things such as our feelings and our anxiety etc.

When you find a worry starting to bug you, switch your thoughts to something you have pre-programmed yourself to think about instead. So as soon as you begin worrying think about a takeaway menu or the lyrics of a favourite song, imagine them written out and you are following them. Keep doing this and you will retrain your subconscious on what you want and don't want to do.

Worrying about something won't change anything that happens it won't prevent anything. All it does is change a calm now moment into a fretful one. It just wastes so much time.

Try and see 'worry' as a loose animal in your head. Don't let it run amok. Try to control it and it will reduce in size so that eventually it takes less and less effort to do and you get to enjoy more of your now moments.

Owly x

[#4]

Oh and something else that I've found that helps with the control of thoughts is that you know that in time, maybe after a nights sleep, that you won't feel as bad, won't be fretting so much..... so why not reach that stage sooner by just pretending you've had a nights sleep, imagine time has moved on and whatever the current worry has been, consign it to the past with all the other worries you've had.
I bet a lot of past worries are things that you have forgotten or don't affect you any more. There is nothing to stop you adding a current worry to that rejected worry pile.

Owly x

[#5]

Thank you Owly for your help, this is really helpful and gives me a lot to think about.

Worrying wont change anything, what will be will be and I cant do anything about that.

I will definitely use this board again when I need some help!

Thanks x

[#6]

Hi,

You'll always be welcome with any worries any time. I know from experience that just knowing what to do doesn't mean it works straight away. It takes practice and sometimes the worry is so great that it can't be contained. Plus we can run away with ourselves at times by overthinking so if ever you need to offload or reduce your worries just pop back and get them off your chest.

Owly x

[#7]

Hi Again,

yes overthinking is one of my terrible habits, small things get blow up into huge things by overthinking. I end up not remembering how small and insignificant something was because i have over thought something so much.

This is going to be a task to control my worrying but i am sure with great help and advise on here I will be able to do it.

Thanks

[#8]

How are you getting on ?

Owly x