[#1]

1) Why do you think people cheat?

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

3) Have you thought about cheating and why?  Have you cheated yourself?

4) Have you been cheated on?

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them?

[#2]

1) Why do you think people cheat?

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

3) Have you thought about cheating and why?  Have you cheated yourself?

4) Have you been cheated on?

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them?

[#3]

1. Many reasons, but probably mostly because one partner is not enough to satisfy there sexual needs, there is a lack of comunication between partners which means the cheater seeks other sexual satisfaction.

2.N/A

3. Yes. Insufficient sexual attention at home. Apart from two seperate inappropriate kisses and cuddles, no..

4. Almost. She told me what was about to happen whilst she was away on one occasion, but circumstance meant it did not happen.

5. Two living with me. My current wife and someone about 02-25 years younger than me. At my age I think twice a week would be good with just one, or once a week each.

Mm

[#4]

Nice honest answers Mm, thanks

[#5]

1) Why do you think people cheat?

Because they are with the wrong person and it's awkward to escape the situation becuase of money/childre/family, Because they are not sexually compatible and communications have broken down, they are not getting emotional/sexual satisfaction from the relationship.

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

I didn't prevent it, I tried but my ex-husband emotioanlly cheated on me first.

3) Have you thought about cheating and why? Have you cheated yourself?

I would never cheat on someone I was having a relationship with, I would end it before I began another relationship.

4) Have you been cheated on?

Yes my ex-husband cheated (see above)

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them?

I think one partner is enough. I enjoy the intimacy of being with and knowing one person. 

[#6]

bottom line is were all messed up we all make mistakes is the cheating worth giving up on your marriage? think serously.

[#7]

Hey

Here's my 2 cents:

1) Why do you think people cheat?

A variety of reasons but from my experience and I'm generalising here, when women cheat it seems to stem from long-term unhappiness with a partner, such as being taken for granted, boredom, lack of attention and not feeling attractive. Women can be suckers for that knight in shining armour complimenting you from every angle and being the handsome and sensitive soul you need.

Men, I would say, usually cheat either when they are not being fufilled sexually or just out of opportunity (one-night stands). Not to say men don't also cheat when they are unhappy emotionally but I think this is more of a driving force for women.

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

I always try to make sure I take care of my appearance as it's easy to get a bit slack when you've been with someone for a long time. I also try to give my boyfriends their freedom and not be too possessive or jealous (even though I am in a big way and always have been since I was a kid!). I think communication is also massively important as is trust - or at least the illusion of trust! I also try to make sure I keep things fresh in the bedroom as I think keeping your man satisfied sexually is very important.

3) Have you thought about cheating and why?  Have you cheated yourself?

First time I cheated, I was 16 and dating my first boyfriend. I had a few occasions where I randomly snogged guys in clubs at the start of the relationship and then 1 year in when I felt neglected, I cheated on his with his mate!

He returned the favour by cheating on me a few months later. It hit me massively and I ended up in therapy and a bit screwed up for years and still have trust issues/confidence problems now.

Long term boyfriend no. 2  - I cheated on and had a mini-affair with a guy in the office. I had kept telling my boyfriend that I wasn't happy and we needed to fix things. I even told him I was worried as had starting fancying someone at work! He didn't talk and so I cheated and then ended the relationship.

Long-term boyfriend no. 3 - never cheated in the usual sense of the word. However, he became seriously ill in hospital and was in there for the best part of the year. It was a very difficult time for myself and his family, particularly as the drugs were making him quite aggressive. During this time, my best friend's boyfriend developed a bit of a thing for me. I was crazy about him but knew it couldn't be. There was no kissing, but over a period of about 12 months, he would often hold my hand, stoke my feet when we were out but we never really talked about it.

Current boyfriend - been together 9 months, love him to bits and have no intention of hurting him. He's amazingly attentive, good looking and wonderful. The best friend's boyfriend (see above) semi-tried it on with me within 3 months of me being with my boyfriend but this was the first time I didn't reciprocate. I have wanted to say something but I just can't now - I'd destroy my friend's relationship.

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them?

I'd also quite like to have lesbian sex as not something I have ever had the opportunity to do - but just one night stands and all about the sex - I'm not interested in woman romantically at all. I guess I wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else when my partner wasn't there but I'd be quite up for swinging, threesomes, etc. with him involved. The only reason I don't do this is because I don't think I could handle my partner getting it on with someone else, not for any social conduct. I think people should be able to do what they want as long as not hurting anyone.

x

[#8]

1) Why do you think people cheat?

A variety of reasons but from my experience and I'm generalising here, when women cheat it seems to stem from long-term unhappiness with a partner, such as being taken for granted, boredom, lack of attention and not feeling attractive. Women can be suckers for that knight in shining armour complimenting you from every angle and being the handsome and sensitive soul you need.

Men, I would say, usually cheat either when they are not being fufilled sexually or just out of opportunity (one-night stands). Not to say men don't also cheat when they are unhappy emotionally but I think this is more of a driving force for women.

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

I always try to make sure I take care of my appearance as it's easy to get a bit slack when you've been with someone for a long time. I also try to give my boyfriends their freedom and not be too possessive or jealous (even though I am in a big way and always have been since I was a kid!). I think communication is also massively important as is trust - or at least the illusion of trust! I also try to make sure I keep things fresh in the bedroom as I think keeping your man satisfied sexually is very important.

3) Have you thought about cheating and why?  Have you cheated yourself?

First time I cheated, I was 16 and dating my first boyfriend. I had a few occasions where I randomly snogged guys in clubs at the start of the relationship and then 1 year in when I felt neglected, I cheated on his with his mate!

He returned the favour by cheating on me a few months later. It hit me massively and I ended up in therapy and a bit screwed up for years and still have trust issues/confidence problems now.

Long term boyfriend no. 2  - I cheated on and had a mini-affair with a guy in the office. I had kept telling my boyfriend that I wasn't happy and we needed to fix things. I even told him I was worried as had starting fancying someone at work! He didn't talk and so I cheated and then ended the relationship.

Long-term boyfriend no. 3 - never cheated in the usual sense of the word. However, he became seriously ill in hospital and was in there for the best part of the year. It was a very difficult time for myself and his family, particularly as the drugs were making him quite aggressive. During this time, my best friend's boyfriend developed a bit of a thing for me. I was crazy about him but knew it couldn't be. There was no kissing, but over a period of about 12 months, he would often hold my hand, stoke my feet when we were out but we never really talked about it.

Current boyfriend - been together 9 months, love him to bits and have no intention of hurting him. He's amazingly attentive, good looking and wonderful. The best friend's boyfriend (see above) semi-tried it on with me within 3 months of me being with my boyfriend but this was the first time I didn't reciprocate. I have wanted to say something but I just can't now - I'd destroy my friend's relationship.

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them?

I'd also quite like to have lesbian sex as not something I have ever had the opportunity to do - but just one night stands and all about the sex - I'm not interested in woman romantically at all. I guess I wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else when my partner wasn't there but I'd be quite up for swinging, threesomes, etc. with him involved. The only reason I don't do this is because I don't think I could handle my partner getting it on with someone else, not for any social conduct. I think people should be able to do what they want as long as not hurting anyone.

x

[#9]

1) Why do you think people cheat?

1) I honestly think it is because people have mismatched sex drives, or they aren't with the correct person. Most of the time the mismatch is so minor that it isn't worth thinking about, except you should. If there is someone who is more compatible with the partner then they might go that route.

2) How do you think prevent/have prevented cheating in your relations?

2) I haven't. I've been cheated on before and it hurt. I couldn't do anything to stop it.

3) Have you thought about cheating and why?  Have you cheated yourself?

3)Yes, and this is what I base my input on. As a guy I was actually rather proud I'd never done it, and I looked at people who did with contempt. I will admit I had broken off relationships and started others very soon afterwards, but I'd never cheated. Until I found my wife. There isn't anything that will make what i did right but I did cheat on my girlfriend of 2 years with my female friend who I eventually married.

And the reason I did is that I was not happy with our sexual relationship. It was "alright" most of the time, but it wasn't great. Often people will have "great" sex at the start of the relationship so it is always a gamble to give one up for the other, but my wife and I are so sexually compatible it isn't funny. While we are no longer going at it like rabbits as we did when we first started, there is no less excitement or craving or want than there used to be. It is still as fun and fresh as it always was, and we've been together for 6 years now.

And it isn't always the risky/kinky sex that is great. We had a quicky last night after we'd been in bed reading for a while and it was lights out. Literally wam-bam-goodnight-honey and it was as intense and enjoyable and "forbidden fruity" as when we started sleeping together.

I'm not proud of what I did but in my defence I was only cheating on my GF because I was too chicken to break up with her. After a week I worked up the balls to call it off with her. She was a nice kid who didn't need me messing her over.

4) Have you been cheated on?

4)Yeah, and still can't get over the audacity of it. We went to a club together and when I got back from getting us hell expensive drinks she's snogging some guy on the dance floor. Of course that led to the whole background of it. I didn't really want to know but she needed to tell me for "closure". Why do women need me to respect them enough to give them that when they can't give me fidelity?

5) If cheating wasn't an issue or a traditional moral conduct didn't exist. how many partners would you ideally like to have and what age?  How often would you make love with them

5) this is a loaded question. Age has very little to do with it IMHO. I've had bad shags by people younger and older than me, and I've had bad sex with older and younger. There is some small claim to younger people having fitter boddies, but all that means is you have to work harder at it when you get older. That being said I have both good and bad sex with both over and under weight women.

As for how often? Well as often as we can. This is a bit of a lie. There are times when we do just sit and watch TV or read books. But because we now have an actual established "life" together there are also things we need to do instead of bumping uglies. Sometimes a little relaxation is still in order. For example the first two weeks of this month we didn't have sex. Either we just didn't, or something came up with the kids or the house or work. This last week we've done it twice a day on average.

"How often" isn't a real question. As often as we can do it. Putting out a hard and fast number means you are probably going to get disapointed. Things sometimes get in the way, which can make it more exciting when you finally catch a break. For the record my wife and I are both in our late 30's.

[#10]

I think people cheat because they have no morality in them. This is the primary reason. The other is that some people think once you marry you have arrived so no need to make an effort. Marriage sex can be routine if you do not look after it and keep it exciting. Men are more tempted to cheat than us. We must keep them interested and be always available for whatever kind of sex he fancies as long as it is not dangerous. Encourage him to speak and ask for what he wants. Give him confidence to know that his needs are served. Feminism sometimes sends messages not compatible with reality.
To me once you choose to marry someone, then sex for both should be on demand. I do it for him even when I am initially not in the mood. He also says "If you can get it up you can have it."

[#11]

I think you have taken a very broad brush approach in terms of sexual compatability. That may well work for you, but sex of demand on a plate is not good for either partner.

Mm

[#12]

As far as I can deduce from what I have seen in my role as a counsellor mst me who cheat feel that they are unable to satisfy their wives and go try someone else only to find the result is the same so they try someone else etc. My theory is that if you ave a partner you should gove him/her confidence to always ask for what they want and understand that they will get it. 

Never refuse your partner's request without ensuring that he/she understands you love them and you can offer alternatives.