[#1]

Hi everyone

I'm hoping someone can give me some advice..
I am 27 & my boyfriend is 26..we met nearly 4 years ago & have always got on great,been serious about each other,get on great with each others family & friends,trust each other,have never done anything to disrespect the other person,have always been solid,little arguments here and there like any couple but get on & have fun,treat each other well.

Last year we moved to Australia for a better life/better jobs etc..had a great time travelling,got great jobs like our dream jobs,more than double the pay at home & settled in to the way of life here...I've made alot friends..him a couple..I make friends easier I suppose.

Living together a year now,talk of
engagement,marriage,babies etc..

One thing that I have noticed over the last year is he has stopped making ANY effort at all. Seriously none sometimes I feel like he just blanks me..
So instead of having a go I had a look at myself & what I could try...

We both had put on weight after meeting so I lost weight through eating healthy & exercising..I'm now weigh over a stone less than when we met..smallest I have ever been but still have curves

I started making more effort appearance wise,sexy underwear anything I could think of...
Started making more of a effort to go to football matches,sporting games,hell even buying beers & playing video games with him...nothing
I feel like I almost have to beg for sex
He has nothing medically wrong,isn't seeing anyone else it's like he thinks ok I have her now don't have make any effort..

I go out with my friends but don't know them well enough to speak to them about this kind of thing & all my loved ones live on the other side of the world..

He talks about getting engaged this year & when would I like to get married...I feel like we are already 90 years.

This wasn't a problem at home,maybe because we didn't live together & I would tell him where to go..

I have tried talking to him but nothing changes...

He is such a nice guy & we do have a good relationship but I can't get married & just not have any affection(kissing,hand holding,even if we go anywhere it's up to me what we do he doesn't care)for the rest if our lives..being rejected over and over again is eating away at me

Any advice would be REALLY appreciated
Thank you x

[#2]

Hi everyone

I'm hoping someone can give me some advice..
I am 27 & my boyfriend is 26..we met nearly 4 years ago & have always got on great,been serious about each other,get on great with each others family & friends,trust each other,have never done anything to disrespect the other person,have always been solid,little arguments here and there like any couple but get on & have fun,treat each other well.

Last year we moved to Australia for a better life/better jobs etc..had a great time travelling,got great jobs like our dream jobs,more than double the pay at home & settled in to the way of life here...I've made alot friends..him a couple..I make friends easier I suppose.

Living together a year now,talk of
engagement,marriage,babies etc..

One thing that I have noticed over the last year is he has stopped making ANY effort at all. Seriously none sometimes I feel like he just blanks me..
So instead of having a go I had a look at myself & what I could try...

We both had put on weight after meeting so I lost weight through eating healthy & exercising..I'm now weigh over a stone less than when we met..smallest I have ever been but still have curves

I started making more effort appearance wise,sexy underwear anything I could think of...
Started making more of a effort to go to football matches,sporting games,hell even buying beers & playing video games with him...nothing
I feel like I almost have to beg for sex
He has nothing medically wrong,isn't seeing anyone else it's like he thinks ok I have her now don't have make any effort..

I go out with my friends but don't know them well enough to speak to them about this kind of thing & all my loved ones live on the other side of the world..

He talks about getting engaged this year & when would I like to get married...I feel like we are already 90 years.

This wasn't a problem at home,maybe because we didn't live together & I would tell him where to go..

I have tried talking to him but nothing changes...

He is such a nice guy & we do have a good relationship but I can't get married & just not have any affection(kissing,hand holding,even if we go anywhere it's up to me what we do he doesn't care)for the rest if our lives..being rejected over and over again is eating away at me

Any advice would be REALLY appreciated
Thank you x

[#3]

Well I doubt if he will change.

If he's not affectionate now then he may never be.

I married such a man.Despite begging and pleading with him to 'be affectionate' -he just isn't.

So I took a lover to supply the 10% missing out of my life! Not everyone's solution- but it worked for me.

Levi

[#4]

I can't see you getting long term happiness from this relationship. He clearly isn't prepared to make any effort to give you want you need ... and I think you can see this. I would get out now before there are babies involved. There's nothing holding you to this relationship apart from a sense of loyalty on your part, as far as I can see. I would try and put that to one side and act on what you truly seem to feel.