[#1]

I posted before about who was more likely to be the biological dad of my unborn baby although didn't receive any reply.. now I really just need to get things out of my system.. its causing me a lot of stress and sleepless nights and I know I've brought this upon myself and I don't know what to do

[#2]

I posted before about who was more likely to be the biological dad of my unborn baby although didn't receive any reply.. now I really just need to get things out of my system.. its causing me a lot of stress and sleepless nights and I know I've brought this upon myself and I don't know what to do

[#3]

Hello Miss Blue,

Could it be possible to have a secret DNA test with your ex?  If it turns out your baby is hopefully your husband's NOBODY cares what your ex says after.  You might tell your husband he is just jealous and wants to be nasty to you saying horrible things about you and trying to split you and your husband up.  If it's your ex's baby, the truth will sooner or later come out, you can't live like that wioth the guilt and not knowing the truth forever.  Your husband might forgive you and bring the ex'es baby as his own (hopefully in the best scenarion).  If not, you'll find a new decent man and keep away from your nasty manipulative ex'es behaviour and complain to police about him for stalking and harrasing you.

I wish you all the best.  At this very special time of your pregnancy you should try to avoid stress as much as you could or you could make yourself and your baby ill.  Try to concentrate on yourself and the fact that your baby's health, calmness and nervous system is healthy as they pick up on all your moods and stress inside you since the very early weeks.  When are you due? NEVER let your ex manipulate EVER again in future.  It's HIS responsibility to drink sensibly and NOT to take drugs if he cares about his health and if he gets to that level when he decides to destroy his life, it's HIS own faul, not yours. x

[#4]

thank you for your reply, I've felt so lonely with this in my head all night and day, as much as I try to keep my stress levels down, I've had a lot of stress to deal with since discovering this pregnancy, everything in the world seems to be fighting against me, a lot of f

[#5]

Hello Miss Blue,

Could I ask how old are you, your husband and your ex? I think the best thing for you at the moment would be to start being more positive about the fact you are pregnant and are going to be a MUM soon and try to feel happier for the sake of the baby.

I know right now everything seems so uncertain and stressful.  As you know there are thousands/maybe even millions of women in the world who are trying to conceive (and can't) and wish they would be in your situation no matter who the father of their baby is because they are DESPERATE to have a baby and become mums.  I understand you Really wish the baby was your husband's but be prepared for one or the other scenario and appreciate the fact it's YOUR baby. 

To my opinion if your husband truly loves you he might be able to forgive you, stand by you in this case too and bring the baby up as his own if it's not his.  You might even want to try for a second baby later and surely this time it will be your husbands if you stay together.

Good luck and all the best  x

[#6]

Just a thought but if you had a secret DNA test then if your husband turned out not to be the biological father then you could tell your husband that your ex forced you to have sex with him. I'm not suggesting you actually say he raped you although it sounds a bit like that was what happened. You could tell him you kept quiet as you didn't want to hurt him as he means more to you than the world. Your ex might turn out to be the father although for your sake I hope not but it takes more than that to be a dad.

[#7]

Why would you want anything to do with your manipulative ex if your husband is everything you want? Does you husband know you meet your ex or that you text each other? If you had all you wanted with your husband, your ex wouldn't get a look in and why should he. He's an ex for a reason.

You say your ex has forced you into a situation that you didn't want. If he forced himself on you, then that's rape. If he didn't then you were a willing partner.  You didn't have to have sex with him unless like I said, he raped you. How about birth control? Or STD's if he's sleeping around?

I'm sorry, but you're playing a game with both men and you've been caught out. Do you seriously think that if this baby is your ex.'s he's going to just walk away and let you and your husband bring it up? You need to sever ALL ties with this man.

I wish you well and hope you get the result you want.